Parent-Teen Communication

Sometimes things get strained around our house--it isn't always easy for parents to communicate with their teenagers. Lately, we feel that our teens have been "telling us what they are going to do" instead of "asking permission to do something." When conversations start with, "I am going..." instead of "Can I go..."--we feel that there is a problem. The other day, this happened--we denied permission even though it really wasn't asked of us--and the attitude was something along the lines of "WHAT?! How dare you say no!"--not those words, but that attitude. We had long discussions about the proper way to ask for permission and the respectful way to speak to us--we HOPE it worked. They did NOT get to do what they neglected to ask us to do--a few days later, they nicely asked permission to do something else. We THINK they get it now, but stayed tuned for more updates on this matter.