My daughter hasn't completely grown into this stage yet, but she is entering the arena. She talks about wanting to wear certain things so boys think she looks cute. She does her hair and makeup so she will "look pretty." She notices boys and giggles about them. She asks what it means when a boys says or does certain things--is he flirting? The other day, an older boy really did seem to be flirting with her--one of her brother's friends, no less. Right now, she gets nervous and embarrassed about it. But at the same time, she is THRILLED about it! :) I wonder how soon she will move into the stage of confidence where she is dishing out the flirting as much as she receives it? I bet that by this time next year, she will live up to the title of "flirt." Just keep it light and innocent, girl--you know, the "dropping the handkerchief" kind of stuff--NOT anything that Paris Hilton types do! Flirting and being cute is okay, flaunting and revealing is NOT. There is a huge difference between the two polar opposites--I want to instill in her the attitude that she is worthy of the very best, and giving free peeks or anything else away is so beneath her. I don't understand why so many girls just freely give it all away to anyone who asks--and I mean this figuratively as well as literally. To me, showing it all off and acting provocatively is just as bad as physically acting it out. A self-confident woman knows that SHE is "the bomb" and she is NOT about to give it all away to just anyone--they have to PROVE themselves to be worthy of her love and attention, KWIM? God I hope I she understands this--there are girls everywhere who do not, and it is tough to stand out from all of that crap. You can be "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful" and still say NO to a lot of things that "all the other girls" are doing. Being picky, thinking highly of yourself, and having dignity and pride in yourself does NOT make you a prude. I mean, really, how many guys truly deserve your attention? Be very very picky--only the best deserve a queen like you! :)
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Flirting
My daughter hasn't completely grown into this stage yet, but she is entering the arena. She talks about wanting to wear certain things so boys think she looks cute. She does her hair and makeup so she will "look pretty." She notices boys and giggles about them. She asks what it means when a boys says or does certain things--is he flirting? The other day, an older boy really did seem to be flirting with her--one of her brother's friends, no less. Right now, she gets nervous and embarrassed about it. But at the same time, she is THRILLED about it! :) I wonder how soon she will move into the stage of confidence where she is dishing out the flirting as much as she receives it? I bet that by this time next year, she will live up to the title of "flirt." Just keep it light and innocent, girl--you know, the "dropping the handkerchief" kind of stuff--NOT anything that Paris Hilton types do! Flirting and being cute is okay, flaunting and revealing is NOT. There is a huge difference between the two polar opposites--I want to instill in her the attitude that she is worthy of the very best, and giving free peeks or anything else away is so beneath her. I don't understand why so many girls just freely give it all away to anyone who asks--and I mean this figuratively as well as literally. To me, showing it all off and acting provocatively is just as bad as physically acting it out. A self-confident woman knows that SHE is "the bomb" and she is NOT about to give it all away to just anyone--they have to PROVE themselves to be worthy of her love and attention, KWIM? God I hope I she understands this--there are girls everywhere who do not, and it is tough to stand out from all of that crap. You can be "hot" and "sexy" and "beautiful" and still say NO to a lot of things that "all the other girls" are doing. Being picky, thinking highly of yourself, and having dignity and pride in yourself does NOT make you a prude. I mean, really, how many guys truly deserve your attention? Be very very picky--only the best deserve a queen like you! :)
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