Well, out of nowhere, my son and his girlfriend broke up. I think it was her idea--wants to be "single" and not "tied down". I remember using those words at their age--15 IS too young to be serious--casual dating and group dating is safer than exclusive dating (as long as they are not getting too intimate). As I look at that statement, it seems backwards--in sexually active relationships, exclusivity is safer. What I mean by that is--right now, just going out seems less likely to become intimate than couples who are "in love"--at least in this age group--and at least from what I observe among my son and his peers. His group seems platonic in groups, but some couples are getting intimate. So far, I believe him when he says that they "made out" during a movie--and that's ALL. I think it is still on the fairly innocent level. I was beginning to worry that if they stayed together, intimacy would get to be an issue. OMG--I don't want to deal with this!! But this is part of parenting--the toughest part, I think. He seemed a bit heartbroken, but he quickly seemed to realize that there are many more girls out there and he needs to be "single" and not "tied down" either. I hope everything calms down soon and he can move on to another INNOCENT relationship--better yet, group dates with friends might be even better. Hope all goes well in this arena!!
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